What do you mean you have no expectations of your partner? Does that mean you guys are swingers now?
Not everyone is bold enough to ask me that question out loud but I can tell when they’re heading down that path. I guess it’s a fair question. The answer is a big fat NO! Biblically the Year of Jubilee is about ceasing labor not breaking the law. In that spirit I think a Year of Jubilee in a marriage is about celebrating not laboring. But don’t you have to work at a relationship? I don’t know, do you? I’ve always heard that you do.
I have to say a marriage without expectations has turned out to be a very sweet affair. It eliminates so much unnecessary interpersonal tension. I don’t worry if my partner is pulling his fair share of the load because he’s getting a year off. I'm taking one off too. Removing unspoken obligations feels great. Nobody has to do anything – really! It might sound chaotic but it’s not. It sort of goes like this – If you’re hungry get something to eat, if you’re running out of clean clothes throw a load in the laundry, if the mess bothers you straighten it, if you need some quiet time say so, if the oil in the car needs to be changed – well maybe you can negotiate a deal on that one. But asking a partner for a favor is a lot different than expecting them to perform simply because they’re unlucky enough to be in a relationship you. No fussing, pouting, whining, nagging or emotional blackmail for a whole year! How does that sound now?
It’ sounds like a party to me!
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